Evaluating Agents With an LLM-as-Judge Harness (Without Kidding Yourself About It)

Key Takeaways You can't unit-test a coach agent the way you test a pure function — the output is non-deterministic and "good" is a judgment call, not an assertion. An LLM-as-judge harness lets you grade a whole test set automatically against a rubric, which is the only way solo-scale eval stays sustainable. But the judge is itself a fallible model. If you don't design around its known biases — position, verbosity, self-preference, and quiet drift when the judge model updates — you build a green dashboard that means nothing. The mitigations that actually work are mechanical, not prompt-magic: shuffle order on every pairwise call, pin the judge version, keep a small human-labelled anchor set, and re-check the judge against it. The problem I actually had FamNest's coach agent generates responses to parents — check-ins, encouragement, the occasional gentle redirect. I have a growing pile of these interactions, and every time I change a prompt, swap a model, or adjust the pipeline, I need to know one thing: did I just make it better or worse? For normal code, that's what tests are for. I change something, the suite runs, red or green, done. But there's no assertEqual for "was this an empathetic, useful response to a tired parent." The output changes every run even at temperature zero-ish, and the quality bar is a human judgment, not a fixed string. Two responses can be worded completely differently and both be good. One can match my "expected output" word for word and still be worse than a version that didn't. So the honest options were: read every response by hand every time I change something (does not scale past about week two), or build a harness where a model grades the outputs against a rubric. I built the harness. Then I spent an uncomfortable amount of time learning all the ways a harness like that can lie to you. What the harness actually is At its simplest, it's a loop: def evaluate ( test_cases , coach_agent , judge ): results = [] for case in test_cases : res